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In a job vacancy text you will not often find modesty in the list of personal characteristics of the ideal candidate. Yet many find it a nice feature. If you are modest, you can put yourself in the background if the situation requires it. You listen carefully to someone else and keep asking. That makes you a pleasant conversation partner and colleague in the eyes of others. It is not for nothing that a well-known Dutch saying reads: "Modesty graces man. "

What is modesty?

Modesty is a complex concept. Associations with modesty include credibility, sympathy, introversion, courtesy and courtesy. So very positive. But modesty is also associated with weakness and uncertainty.

Compare the following situations:

Peter is a manager who always has an eye and ear for (the problems of) his colleagues. He does his job well and achieves excellent results. He is proud of his team and gives them appropriate compliments. He is chaotic and he knows it himself. For this reason he regularly takes a look at himself. Arrogance is strange to him; you will not easily catch him using strong language. His colleagues find him a very pleasant person to work with.

Patrick wants to change jobs and during his job interview he is asked about a project that he is proud of. He chops up an answer and looks away from the recruiters. Although he has done great projects, he finds it difficult to talk about his successes. After the interview, recruiters unanimously agree: Patrick is not the right candidate for the position. Too uncertain and weak presentation.

As Peter's example shows, modesty is by no means a wrong attribute. If you are modest, you've a realistic view of yourself and the relationships you've with others. You have a good picture of your own strengths and the points that you can improve. You respect others and you value their strengths. This makes you a pleasant person with whom the good work is.

But you can - just like Patrick - be too modest. And then this essentially beautiful feature can stand in your way in situations where you've to sell or profile yourself, such as during a job interview. If you are too modest, you present yourself less well than you are. You make yourself smaller than necessary and you minimize what you can do well. And that is a shame, because with what you are good at, you can make an important contribution to a larger whole. Moreover, you get the most pleasure out of it and the satisfaction you get to use those strengths.

Are you too modest?

- Do you think your supervisor should be able to understand what you know and can do from your work?
- Have your colleagues ever responded surprised when you told them what you were doing?
- Have you ever missed an assignment or project that you could have fulfilled in your eyes?
- Are questions ever asked to a colleague about a subject that you know more about?
- Do you think about a difficult project: Leave that to colleague X, because I can't do that while you do have the right capacities for this?

If you can answer most questions with 'yes', there is a good chance that you are a (too) modest person. You can check this image with your environment. Ask your family, your friends and possibly your colleagues if they find you (too) modest. Do they find you visible in the workplace? Can you profile yourself well?

If you are too modest, others will not see what you are doing and you can do, and this will be at the expense of your self-confidence and success. Because you don't find it appropriate to walk for sale with your unique qualities, you become invisible. As a result, you not only do yourself, but also your colleagues and the organization you work for too short.

So be modest about the things you can do less well (and you may want to develop those skills), but be honest and visible about your qualities.

What are the benefits of being less modest?

- Your job satisfaction increases
- Your confidence gets a boost
- You will experience more success in your work

Tips to be less modest during a job interview

When you are looking for other work you naturally want to distinguish yourself from all those other applicants. You will have to sell yourself and show what you can do well.

Prepare well for your interview. You know that your conversation partners want to know more about you and that you've to talk about yourself. Boasting is different from being honest. Map your strengths and state them specifically using the STAR method. If you've made a certain project a success, you can honestly and openly tell about it. In this way you can talk about yourself in a constructive way without being arrogant. Write down what you want to say and practice the text in advance. Do this with a friend or relative so that he or she can honestly tell you how you come across. Practice until you can transfer the text naturally. What should you pay attention to?

- Speak audibly, clearly and fluently, so don't speak softly, in your mouth and in your mouth.
- Do not use negative words when talking about yourself. Tell about yourself in positive terms. This way you show that you've faith in your own qualities.
- Sit upright and with the shoulders back, so not huddled.
- Speak enthusiastically and with passion.

If you are very modest by nature, it will be very annoying to talk about yourself in the beginning. But the following applies: people learn by doing. After a while it will always be easy for you.

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